ohh ibuuuu...~

Love~

When you were inside your mom’s tummy,
your mom suffered the pain that you gave to her,
and you thanked her by kicking her all day long.

When you were 1 year old,
your mom celebrated the first birthday of you,
you thanked her by crying all day long.

When you were 2 years old,
your mom started teaching you how to talk,
you thanked her by saying ummmumumumumamamama.

When you were 3 years old,
your mom brought you to the park,
you thanked her by running around the pond, and chasing the ducks.

When you were 4 years old,
your mom bought you some toys,
you thanked her by breaking the toys on the next day.

When you were 5 years old,
your mom bought you a story book and read it to you,
you thanked her by ripping it piece to piece.

When you were 6 years old,
your mom sent you to the kindergarten, so that you can start making friends,
but you thanked her by fighting with your classmate.

When you were 7 years old,
your mom made you a very nice lunch for the first day of school,
you thanked her by throwing your foods around the class.

When you were 8 years old,
your mom handed you an ice cream,
you thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

When you were 9 years old,
she paid for piano lessons,
you thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

When you were 10 years old she drove you all day,
from soccer to football to one birthday party after another,
you thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

When you were 11 years old,
she took you and your friends to the movies,
you thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.

When you were 12 years old,
she warned you not to watch certain TV shows,
you thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

When you were 13 years old,
she suggested a haircut that was becoming,
you thanked her by telling her she had no taste.

When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp,
you thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

When you were 15, she came home from work, looking for a hug,
you thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

When you were 16, she taught you how to drive her car,
you thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

When you were 17, she was expecting an important call,
you thanked her by being on the phone all night.

When you were 18, she cried at your high school graduation,
you thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.

When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition,
drove you to campus carried your bags. You
thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm
so you wouldn’t be embarrassed in front of your friends.

When you were 25, she helped to pay for your
wedding, and she cried and told you how deeply
she loved you. You thanked her by moving
halfway across the country.

When you were 50, she fell ill and
needed you to take care of her.
You thanked her by reading about
the burden parents become to their
children.

And then, one day, she quietly died.
And everything you never did came
crashing down like thunder on
YOUR HEART..

If you love your MOM & you thank her deeply,
repost reblog this bulletin
If you dont then you dont care if your mom dies .

Family.

When it comes to family. A lot of story to tell about.

Some parents encouraging by condemn their children. Some parents just condemn their children. Some parents comparing a child to another child. So many types of parents but for sure, they will cry for their children :) I did go through that. yeah. I have many cousins and relatives. The eldest, 22 years old. 2nd, 21, third, me and another, 20. Below me is my brother and a cousin, 19. So clearly there is a competition when it comes to big examination or when it comes to the GPA every end of the semester.

my siblings, not a very bright student, but my cousins, not to say gifted but they are clever. my parents always comparing me to the other cousins. since above me got 2 elder and along with me got a cousin, so let say I am tired being condemn and compared. Even someone said that "anak2 ******* ni bukan orang ke?", "alah, anak2 ******* xde ape la, dorg bukan pamdai mane pun". then only I understand my parents' goal for me and my brother to study and become a good man to family and country.

'anak ***** bole dapat kputusan bagus2, ko afiq? byk main. dah la tak pandai'

-ibu, ayah, ini kemampuan afiq. myb dlm bidang ni sahaja. tp dlm ilmu lain2? bole dorg hidup when it comes to hard time? I guarantee they can't. be proud of ur sons and daughter.- 

It's hurt when comparing is start. so many of them proud of what they have or what their parents give.

'Kereta ni bapak aku la belikan, senang nak g kelas'
'aku amik lesen pakai duit mak aku la. takkan pakai duit aku pulak'
'duit tiap2 bulan RM500++, tak kurang la. mintak dapat'


then let me answer 1 by 1 of your proudest claims.

-ur dad give a car? so? big one? expensive? exclusive? u didn't earn it. so STFU. if u buy even kancil, using ur own money, u have the utmost respect from me-
-18 years old still using parents' money for car license? shame on u.-
-every month burdening ur parents with ur lust and need? what did u gave to them? setimpal dgn ape dorg dah bg?-

ya, korg bole cakap mcm2. afiq tuh iri hati. mak bapak dia tak bg ape2. aku tak kesah and aku tak meminta pun. adakah kereta 1 keperluan semasa belajar. itu cuma bonus. lesen? duit poket byk tiap2 bulan? itu cuma bonus. try get a 4 flat or even 2 above. tak bole la. ada keta, lesen, duit = byk keluar, byk sosial = extend. ada aku kesah ke dgn kata2 korg kalau aku keluar universiti dulu dgn bergaya? 

I've seen this kind of people. They don't even survive a night outside the house. what a LOSER.

so, ibu bapa mencorakkan anak2. terlalu menbanggakan dan memberi, tidak lah kemana. malah melemahkan surviving skill anak2 ataupun skill2 yg lain.

ibu bapa tidak lah hidup sampai bila2. apabila hilang mereka, hilang lah arah anak2 yg dibanggakan itu, ibarat telur yg digantung dgn tali, apabila terputus tali, pecahlah telur, berderailah kulitnya.

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