Either he or she needs to know this, better both, or....

1. to take care of the heart and feelings of the person you love, try to avoid to hurt them as much as possible but if cant, its understandable because nobody is perfect. unless your partner doesn't own a heart.

2.  always giving up to avoid trouble. if you are the one who making mistakes, don't ever try to defend yourself, but do explain and give up. UNLESS you are accused.

3. know why and the reasons he/she mad at you, find a solution not just jump to a conclusion.

4. he/she needs attention if in troubles. so be prepare to be a good hearer and give advises if necessary.

5. knows the ways and try your best to persuade he/she when he/she moody, don't just leave it or give it up.

6. patience and trust is the main things, others will come later :)

7. when in fighting, he/she will stop messaging just to avoid further problems. at the same time he/she waiting for you to message him/her back. but, don't send a message that will upset him/her.

8. if he/she is stubborn, don't just give up. plus if you are the one who making mistakes, don't question him/her why him/her upset. find a way to admit and say sorry.

9. he/she will be upset for some reasons, don't you ever reply on of his/her moody messages by "what is wrong with you?" or something like that. find out the reasons 1st, then. find a solution.

10. if he/she said he/she needs some time, respect and do give it. then, find him/her back because he/she is actually waiting for you.

11. love leads to jealousy, even when on phone, he/she hears others opposite gender's voice, he/she will think you are doing something, a social person and will think all the negatives. he/she will questioning you who and whatsoever, so be careful, doesn't mean you have to hide things or lie to him/her, but at least respect him/her by explaining. he/she trust you, don't break it.

12. he/she doesn't really like when you are talking about some other guys/girls. furthermore if the guys/girls you are talking about have feelings towards yourself, it just doesn't feel right.

13. it is not his/her intention to avoid you from meeting your own friends. he/she just afraid losing you that's all. from friends can turn to love, that is what he/she afraid of.

14. don't ever say "you don't love me anymore", "love me less if loving me with your life is a problem", or any kind of that to a moody partner. if he/she is moody, all you have to do is try to persuading, not make it worse.

15. don't ever say that "you don't care about me anymore" because the truth is he/she do care about you, just egoism blinding their eyes. UNLESS, he/she really doesn't care about you anymore.

16. be a responsible partner, do whatever it takes to avoid mass problems.

17. respond to his/her moody by persuading, explaining (if you are the one who making mistakes), not just sending message that will hurt him/her.

18. silent treatment is a way to teach your partner. but. if you are the one who being ignored (or being treat by silent treatment), know that you have done something that hurt, don't be silent too. approach him/her.

19. if you are the one who making mistakes, please please please try to persuade your partner, he/she need is so badly :(

20. let be no Master in a relationship. both sides must understand your partner's needs, rules and regulations, what your partner like or doesn't, and so on.

21. whatever you said, your partner will believe you. don't ever lie to him/her. speak the truth. the truth does hurts but what hurts the most, is your partner find out the truths by him/herself.

22. do 1 mistakes, to learn from it. not to repeating it. REMEMBER THAT..!

23. if you want to test your partner's love towards you, feel free to test it. but be careful. 

24. he/she will ask for your phone, of course to check. don't ever delete some messages or whatsoever because it will just show the truths about yourself. a LIAR..!!

25. nice to see, nice to hold. once broken consider sold. same goes to TRUST, once its broken, consider SOLD. so, take a good care of your partner' trust.

26. it is not that he/she doesn't like your boys/girls friends. its a thing that called JEALOUS.

27. even when it comes to family or soon-to-be one of your family members, watch your social circle limit. 

28. whatever you are doing behind your partner, if it doesn't feel right, don't do it. UNLESS you want your partner to do the same behind you, so feel free to do it.

29. your partner will believe in whatever you said. but, whatever you said, make sure you are doing it. not just " ouh, I know my limit ok, no need to worry" but the truth is, you are doing different thing. 

30. please please please please please understand your partner. he/she doesn't like it, don't do it. is it so hard? F*** ME if it is too hard. stay single! don't hurt someone's feelings..!

I am doing this not because to say that I am right, all the time. nor to be a master in a relationship.

I don't know, just can't help myself. I can't explain what I feel. just feel it too. I am no different than you.  

p/s : either he or she needs to know this, better both, or you will end up in a RELATIONSHIT not RELATIONSHIP.

this is no copy paste. this is from my heart.


Muhammad Afiq Bin Abdul Rahman
5/5/2010